Surviving Valentine’s Day as a singleton

As some of you may have seen, walking along the main street, shops are splashed in hues of red and the atmosphere is dense with love.

Valentine’s Day is here again. Expect your social media feeds to be filled with photos, videos and praise of coupledom.

There’s been reports of dating apps expecting to surge in members and usage, as well.

For those who are single and who haven’t yet followed the ‘template’ of life, sometimes they’re asked why they’re still single.

Perhaps those asking are scared that single folks’ choice to stay single and happy threatens the popular worldview that being in relationships and marriage is the best way to derive happiness.

But for folks who choose to be single – whether temporarily or forever – they too can revel in the day rather than dwell in not meeting expectations.

The day could instead be one of practising self affirmation and solitude.

Indeed, philosophers and psychologists praise the value of doing things for yourself, by yourself, before you can love others.

The Jungian Centre states that “succumbing to these extraverted pressures means we never make our own acquaintance, never come to know the characters of our inner city, and never develop the self-sufficiency that allows us to know we are never alone”.

It is only when you’re comfortable in your own skin can you truly find the beauty within others.

Instead of splurging on posh nosh and scented peripherals of a too easily commercialised occasion, why not consider sending some of that to charity, family or friends who need it?

Indeed, in Yass, the close-knit community feel is a reason to give – time and financially – to our many charities and not-for-profit organisations.

The day can be seen as a day of celebrating compassion and kindness to others. Instead of setting up that perfect date-night photo for Instagram, go take a hike and a long walk in nature where the conditions and environments are already perfect for social media photos.

While you’re alone, introspection helps with letting your mind incubate ideas, rather than getting caught up in the noise of what Valentine’s Day is mostly about today.

Celebrate coupledom today, but also know that singledom is worth the time and effort.